The Bible is a wonderful book of instruction. It not only tells us about God’s grace and mercy, but it tells us what we can do to live better, fuller lives. Sometimes we all find ourselves setting standards for our lives based upon our own thoughts and ideas, but its truly God’s standard that we should be comparing ourselves to. So what does God think a Godly man should be like? (Don’t worry guys, I picked on the ladies in a different blog post yesterday).
Let’s see! Titus 2:2, “That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.”
That’s a good start. If we skip down to verse 6 of the same book and chapter, we will find that young men are to be sober minded.
Titus 2:7-8 adds, “In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.”
Let’s break this down a little bit. To truly be Godly, a man must:
- Be sober – his temperament should be somewhat calm. He shouldn’t be impulsive or make decisions rashly. Nor should he give himself over to wine or any type of intoxicating beverage. He should know how to think clearly. Exceptions aren’t made for guys who join the service right out of high school. They aren’t made for guys who are single and aren’t yet ready to settle down. A Godly man is sober. End of story.
- Be grave – he should be consistent in the way he speaks, the types of places he visits, the standards he has for himself and for his family, etc. When a man’s behaviors fluctuate based on who he is around, that man ceases to be Godly. If he doesn’t curse when he’s out to dinner with his pastor, he shouldn’t curse when he’s fishing with his buddies either.
- Be temperate – he should not be violent or allow his emotions to rule him. He should know how to possess himself in such a way as to please and honor God even when facing difficult challenges. Even though in the eyes of his peers it may make him look more macho to swing his fists or to put some other guy in his place, that is not what God wants him to be doing. A Godly man knows something about meekness.
- Be sound in faith – he should know what he believes and why he believes it. A Godly man is not easily influenced by new found trends in society. His beliefs are settled on the Word of God and like a tree planted by the rivers of water, he will not be moved and his faith will not be shaken. Having faith and being sound in faith aren’t exactly the same thing. It’s easy to have faith when things are going well. It’s a whole different story when you lose your job and don’t know how to pay your bills. Being sound in faith means a Godly man trusts God in every area of his life no matter what he is facing.
- Be sound in charity – he should have a giving heart. Charity involves more than simply saying the words, “I love you.” Charity requires action. A Godly man should be not only be willing to give freely of himself to aid others, but he should take part in being blessing to others whenever those opportunities present themselves.
- Be sound in patience – as difficult as it is for many men, patience is truly a virtue. A Godly man doesn’t have to have what he wants right when he wants it. He knows how to wait on God’s timing. He has no problem trusting God to come through just on time and He is an on time, every time God. Patience is one of the most difficult things many men have to learn, but if they want to be Godly, it’s a character trait they must possess.
- Be sober minded – not only are the aged men but to be sober, but the young men ought to be sober minded. In other words, young men should not jump from one extreme to another. They should strive to be in God’s will at all times and not to allow their flesh to take over. It’s not the man’s will that matters, it’s God’s will.
- Show himself a pattern of good works – when other people look at a Godly man, they should see a pattern of good works – an example they could easily follow. That example, more specifically, should include in knowing and applying Biblical truths or doctrines, in being genuine and sincere in his beliefs and actions, in controlling his tongue and his attitude.
Godly men in this day and age are rare. A lot of boys enter early adulthood with the idea of, “Now I get to buy my own beer and cigarettes and lottery tickets,” as opposed to saying, “Now I can make my own decisions as to how I am going to serve God. I’m going to become a Sunday School teacher, a missionary, a preacher, or even a pastor.”
Those boys quite often never attain manhood – at least not the type of Godly manhood the Bible describes in the book of Titus.