Every lady is a woman, but every woman is not a lady. Every person who believes on Jesus Christ and calls upon His name is saved, but every saved person does not necessarily live a Godly life. Is that about as clear as a puddle of mud? What I’m saying is some husbands and some wives who are saved by God’s grace are Godly individuals and some are… well, let’s just say not very Godly. So what are some traits of Godly wives?
First, let’s look at a few Bible verses and then we’ll break them down a little bit. Titus 2:3-5, “The aged women likewise, that they may be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children. To be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
- The first thing you see here is that a Godly wife, or even a Godly woman for that matter, should be one whose behavior, or whose character, reeks of holiness. That doesn’t mean this individual goes around hollering, “Look at me, I’m holy.” It means they try to live their lives according to scriptural teachings. They study the Bible to find out how they should dress, how they should talk, where they should go, what they should do with their time, what their role in life is, etc and then they honor God by being what He wants them to be.
- Godly wives aren’t false accusers. I would dare say no one reading this post would consider themselves to be a false accuser. But sometimes people do just that. They make assumptions about individuals. They guess what another person’s motives are. They convince themselves they understand how that other person’s mind operates. They take their own opinions, pretend they are facts, and then either accuse those individuals to their faces, or more often than not, tell someone else what they think of so-and-so. Ladies, there is nothing Godly about falsely accusing someone.
- Godly wives do not make a habit of drinking wine or intoxicating drinks. That should be pretty self-explanatory, but there are so-called Christian wives out there who see nothing wrong with drinking. Let the Bible speak for itself. Don’t habitually drink wine and expect to be considered a Godly wife in the eyes of the Almighty God.
- A Godly wife should be a teacher of good things. She should be teaching her children as well as other ladies in her circle how to be obedient to God and how to honor Him with their lives. She should teach not only with her words, but with her actions. A Godly wife should be teaching others how to exercise self-discipline, how to have a good work ethic, how to make their homes places of joy, and more!
- A Godly wife should love her husband. That sounds easy enough, right? But there are far too many wives out there who do not truly love their husbands – not the way they ought to. The husband of a Godly wife will know his wife adores him. He will have no problem loving his wife and providing for her needs because of the affection she shows him. A Godly wife will do everything within her power to please her husband.
- A Godly wife ought to love her children, if she has children that is. Again, this may sound simple, but sometimes it is apparent that women do not love their children. I once heard a woman say she worked so much overtime so she could stay out of the house because her kids drove her crazy. She said she would never take any of her vacation time while her kids were not in school because she needed some alone time away from her children. That is not love. A Godly wife should love the family God has given her.
- A Godly wife should be discreet. In other words, she should not rush into things without exercising caution. Using wisdom, she should figure out how to accomplish tasks in ways that will not create problems or cause plans to fail. Being a wife comes with a lot of responsibility and a Godly wife will take that responsibility seriously.
- A Godly wife should be a keeper at home. For a Godly wife, there is no greater priority than to have her home in order. She should take pride in keeping her home running smoothly. Her home should come before hanging out with friends, before recreational activities, before secular jobs, and before relaxation. The way she attends her home will speak volumes of her her, her husband, and her children.
- A Godly wife will be good.That means she should not be weak or defective. Every morning she should wake up with the desire in her heart to be the very best wife she can possibly be. She should not be able to think of any wife who treats their husbands better than she treats her own husband. Every day she should challenge herself to be a better, more Godly wife than she was the day before.
- A Godly wife should be obedient to her own husband. I’ll never forget something that happened during the last couple of months prior to my wedding. I told my then fiance that I feared God might be calling me to be a missionary to Cuba. I wasn’t sure if I was understanding God correctly or not and I wasn’t sure if or when that might happen. I wanted my fiance to know it was a possibility so I could get a feel for how she would react to such a thing. Her response was incredible. She said something like, “Well, when we get married you are going to be the head of the house. If God tells you we belong in Cuba, then we’ll move to Cuba.” Wow! That simple? My soon-to-be wife loved and trusted me so much that she was willing to leave all of her friends and family to follow me anywhere God told me to go. A Godly wife will love and trust her husband enough to allow him to lead the home. She won’t tell her husband what to do or what not to do. She will allow him to lead. (Yes, if he is a Godly man and if he loves her like he should, he will also look for what’s in his wife’s best interests, but that’s another blog for another time.) For further study on this topic – see Ephesians 5:22 and 5:24, Colossians 3:18, and especially I Peter 3:1.